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“10 Things Pastors Would Love to Hear from Church Members”

August 19, 2016

With thanks to Thom Rainer for this list, I’ll admit I was planning to point out my top three and comment on them.

But as I looked at and worked with Thom’s material, that changed. If I’m honest, all ten here resonate loudly with me as a working pastor of a real church which I love. 

Here’s Thom’s list of 10 Things Pastors Would Love to Hear from Church Members with Thom’s own commentary on each item — 

1. “I pray for you every day.” It’s not just prayer; it’s daily prayer. The pastor understands ministry is spiritual warfare. The pastor understands prayer is one of the greatest weapons in the warfare.

2. “I want to help your family any way I can.” Most pastors are stressed and stretched. So are their families. When a church member offers to support and help the family, the pastor feels like shouting for joy.

3. “I want you to know specifically how God spoke to me through your sermon.” The key word here is “specifically.” It’s not a lot of encouragement if a church member says perfunctorily “good sermon.” Let the pastor know the specific meaning and application to you from the sermon.

4. “I am ready and willing to take on that ministry task.” Pastors take great joy when a church member understands that ministry is to be done by the members, that the pastor is not the hired hand to do it all.

5. “I see my role as an encourager.” Pastors need numbers of people who will take on the Barnabas role. The critics will always be there.

6. “I see my role as one who will confront the bullies and the perpetual critics in the church.” I have heard from countless pastors that it’s not the critics who bother them as much as the “friends” who will not speak up and to the critics and church bullies.

7. “I will make certain your family has an adequate income.” One of the great stressors on pastors is financial worry. It is such a relief and joy when a church member takes the role of financial advocate for the pastor.

8. “I am available to babysit your kids.” Pastors with young kids relish a husband-wife date night. Many of them are unable to go out because they can’t find or afford babysitters.

9. “I will be in church with no excuses unless providentially hindered.” Pastors hear plenty of excuses. It is a refreshing change for them to hear from a no-excuse church member.

10. “I will never compare you to a previous pastor.” Yep, pastors cringe when they hear, “Pastor Bill used to do it this way.” Let your pastors know they have their own identity, and that previous pastors are not a scorecard against which they are measured.

 

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One Comment
  1. I have been all of them and I have fell short on all, sometimes at the same time. I feel in flux in spite of some providence.

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